Warning: Is Your Friend Trying to Steal Your Man
In the realm of friendship you have all kinds. There’s the great and loyal friend. There’s the friend that’s only friendly when they need something, and then there’s the friend who is more like an enemy. The worst thing about a bad friendship is not knowing that you’re friend is actually your frenemy until the last minute. Some frenemies are very good at deceiving you into thinking that they’re truly someone who cares about you. This frenemy is the type of person who would go there with your guy. Here’s how you can determine if your friend is trying to steal your man.
Signs of a Man Stealing Friend
1. Wants to know too much information
One thing that women do if they don’t do anything else, and that is talk. It’s only natural for a woman to share her life with those that she cares about. It’s even normal in the midst of the conversation for the listener to become curious and ask questions to get all the facts and information. But a man stealing friend isn’t waiting for you to strike up a conversation with her about your guy. She takes the initiative and starts to question you about him in a very detail way. She wants facts that a normal friend doesn’t and wouldn’t want to know. It’s like she’s just way too interested in him.
2. Has to always be around you and him
Yes, if you have a single friend it’s only inevitable that you, your friend, and your man will end up partaking in some friendly outings and activities. However, a man stealing friend has to attend every little thing that you guys do together. It seems that you’re never able to be alone with your boyfriend. She doesn’t give you a moment’s peace. You basically have to conceal your plans in order to enjoy them.
3. Is or has developed a relationship with him that you can’t be part of
This is the biggest sign. This frenemy has developed her own relationship with your man, and furthermore you seem to be the last one to know. You never seem to find about outings, conversations, and other things until well after the fact. When you ask why weren’t you made aware of these things you’re made to seem like you’re paranoid or jealous. Your friend shouldn’t be talking to you about your man as if he was her boyfriend, nor should she have dealings with him that you don’t know about from the start.
4. Tries to get you to see his character flaws only
Arguments are inevitable in any kind of relationship. But when your frenemy knows that you and your guy have had one they see this as an opportunity to take advantage of. They’ll go so far as to try to sour your taste for your man. The more that your friend can get you to see that he’s not a good guy the more likely it is that you’ll walk away. This is what your so called friend wants. They want you to leave him so she can have him.
5. Is inappropriate with your boyfriend
Class and tact sometimes can be a hard commodity to acquire. Everyone knows what is acceptable behavior when it comes to dealing with your boyfriend. A man stealing friend doesn’t care about that. She’s always too close, too touchy, or just too damn interested in him altogether. Yes, he’s interesting but even he knows he’s not that interesting. This is another sure sign that your friend is interested in your boyfriend beyond what a real friend should be.
Behaviors of a Man Stealing Friend
- Dresses too sexy when she’s around him
- Always seeking his attention
- Basically pushes you out of conversation
- Tries to tie up his attention on her
- Waits on him as if she was his girl
- Closer to him than what’s acceptable
- Tries to find out what kind of girl he wants
- Says unflattering things about you to him
- Tells him things she knows you don’t want him to know
- Tries to get him to go places with her without you
- Always staring at him
- Lights up when she sees him
- Touches him more than normal
- Talks about him all the time to you
- Always tries to let him know that she’s the better catch
- Let’s you know that she would gladly take him if something happens
- Always trying to get him alone
- Always trying to get him to do her favors
- Overly complimentary to him
- Always flirting with him
If you notice these signs and behaviors then maybe you do have a problem with your friend. She may be so enamored with your guy that she’s willing to destroy your friendship to be with him. Some friends like this will do whatever they can to cause problems with you and your boyfriend to speed up the break up process between the two of you so she can have a shot at him. If you find that your friend is indeed trying to steal your man the best thing for you to do is to put some distance between you and her.
You should also let her know that you know what she’s up to so that she can curtail her pursuit of your man. You should also let your boyfriend know what is happening as well so that he doesn’t get caught up in a situation he’ll regret. Know this, this type of friend isn’t not a friend to you at all, and you shouldn’t feel guilty about having to end the friendship if this is what needs to happen.
Have you ever had to deal with this type of friend. If so what did you do about it. Answer in the comment section below.